This has always been a feeling in my soul and it’s okay if you don’t feel the same way. I don’t want anyone to feel , like they’re not blessed, so please listen, from a girl whose felt not blessed before.
Social media is such a funny thing. It connects us to people we want to stay connected with, but I truly believe it also causes anxiety, self-doubt, depression, among many other negative feelings.
I see people post so often about something great in their life followed by something along the lines of, “so blessed”, or “beyond blessed” or simply just “blessed”. I get it, I’m sure you can stalk my social media accounts and find that I’m guilty of it too. But what you won’t see is that’s not how I felt.
It’s so easy to make people think you feel blessed. If I show something positive in my life and say how blessed I am, that must mean I’m blessed and other people think I’m blessed and that’s great. But am I truly blessed? Do I truly feel blessed?
I think of a friend struggling with a miscarriage and think, should I post a picture of my kids saying I’m blessed? In doing so, am I saying she’s not blessed? Or a friend whose dad is dying of cancer, for someone to beat cancer and say they’re blessed. Will she not be blessed if her dad succumbs to the cancer? My dad died when I was 15 in a car accident, so when someone posts a picture with both their parents saying they’re blessed, am I not blessed because I don’t have my dad?
This has always weighed on my heart. I try to consciously not say I’m blessed because I never want what I view as blessed to make someone feel not blessed. I never want a picture with my husband boasting about how blessed I am to make my cousin feel like she’s not blessed because her husband is stationed in Texas for the army.
Listen, if you’re thinking I’m crazy and the fact I don’t like the word blessed makes me less of a Christian, that is your opinion to have. The truth is, I love the word blessings. I often wish people would replace “blessed” with “feeling His blessings” or “this is a great blessing” etc. Yes, babies are blessings! Yes, beating cancer is a blessing! Spending time with your parents is a blessing! We all have blessings in our lives that differ from everyone else.
What I love about blessings, is that it doesn’t make another person feel inferior about their blessings. You can tell someone what a great blessing they’ve received without having your heart aching and your gut wrenching because you don’t feel blessings in your life the same way someone else does.
I try not to judge (I say try because I’m human) and I try to not take blessed social media posts personally. However, I’d be lying if I said these posts never made me feel like I wasn’t blessed. Am I not blessed because you have your dad and I don’t? What does it mean when you post a picture with him and put blessed? That the people without a dad aren’t blessed? Instead, a post saying, spending the day with my dad was a blessing. Yeah, you’re sure right! I’m so glad you had that blessing today.
I can’t argue with blessings. They rain down on all of us. We all have blessings in different areas of our lives. Although some are hard to see, identify, or we choose to close our eyes to them..blessings are pouring down on us even though we aren’t deserving.
Some might say I’m not fully healed over the death of my dad, and the truth is they’re right. No one is ever fully healed over the death of a loved one. You live a new life you never chose to live. You become jealous, angry, and upset when blessed posts hit social media. You worry about how others are feeling by this word and if it affects them the same way. I never want someone to feel inferior about their faith and their blessings because of someone’s use of the word blessed.
If you do ever come across the word blessed, and you feel as though that person has left you feeling inferior about your blessings, please listen to this. You are BLESSED because Jesus Christ died for you. Because of this, we all receive blessings of His love. No one else is more or less blessed than you are.
I also want to share one final thought. A couple times I wrote how blessed I was or how great my life was on social media, my life was not great and I did not feel blessed. I felt like if I told the social media “world” this that they would believe it to be true and think, wow, life’s going great for her! Please, please don’t let what someone else determines to be “blessed” undervalue your blessings in life. Your blessings are amazing too.
We are not situationally blessed. We are all blessed because He died for all of us.